This post was updated on 12/11/22

Did you know that kindness is contagious?

One study found that people are more likely to perform feats of generosity after observing others do the same. This effect can ripple throughout the community, inspiring dozens of individuals to make a difference.

According to Psychology Today, ‘Kindness means a behavioural response of compassion and actions that are selfless; or a mindset that places compassion for others before one’s own interests.’

The miracle of kindness is that it is contagious and something we should all want to pass on and spread to many others.’ 

Psychology Today

If we practice kindness as a regular habit, a number of studies have found that it can have a directly positive impact of our own mental and physical health too.

That’s why kindness – in big and small ways – is more important than ever. Your one random act of kindness could change someone’s day and start a chain reaction of kindness, benefiting yours and their wellbeing.

I originally published this blog post in February 2020, when I found out about the tragic death of Caroline Flack. A woman that was so loved and full of love. I was so upset when I heard the news. Maybe because she was a similar age to me, maybe because I saw her speak live at an event so learnt more about her as a lovely person. Maybe because I could see how unfairly she was being treated on social media.

I was always taught if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. That might sound simplistic, but you never know what someone is going through and just because it’s via a keyboard, doesn’t mean what you say is any less harmful.  I feel compelled to help to bring more kindness into the world, to yourselves but also to others. Wouldn’t it be fantastic if that was Caroline’s legacy? To counteract the nastiness, let’s spread as much kindness as we can!  This blog post will suggest 33 ways to be kind and brighten someone’s day.

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Try these simple ways to be kind and brighten someone’s day

  1. Say good morning/hello to a stranger-you might just make them smile.
  2. Let someone in front of you in the queue. Are you doing your weekly shopping but can see the person behind you only has a couple of items? Letting them pay first is a simple way to be kind
  3. Hold the door open for someone with their hands full.
  4. Ask someone how they are. Then ask again to find out how they really are. They might just open up to you.
  5. Pay someone a genuine compliment
  6. Call on a neighbour you haven’t seen in a while. They might not have seen anyone in a while
  7. Surprise your colleague or loved one with a cuppa tea or coffee.
  8. Give your time to a friend that needs it.
  9. Donate to a charity that means something to you. This could mean donate money, but it doesn’t have to be. You could donate your time or unwanted items from your home. It’s a good opportunity to have a sort through of your belongings and declutter things you no longer need.
  10. Volunteer at a local community project.
  11. Sit on a communal table at a coffee shop. Show you are happy to talk to someone. There might be times when you would prefer to sit your own and that’s okay too. This isn’t about putting pressure on you and saying you have to always. However when you’re feeling sociable, why not give it a go.
  12. Buy a coffee for the person behind you in the queue
  13. Leave positive Post It Notes around town. Imagine how much joy you’d bring to the person who finds one.

Read 17 of the Best Notes from Positive Post-It Day 

14. Leave a positive comment on a blog or social media account you follow.

15. Look on Facebook to see who you can wish happy birthday to

16. Call a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while

17. Message a friend just to say good morning/good night.

18. Drive with kindness

This is one of the most life-changing ways to be kind, as people aren’t really expecting it. So for example you could wave a pedestrian across the street or let a car through. Another way, which might surprise you, is to be kind when you’re stuck in traffic. You never know what the cause of that traffic jam might be

19. Pass along a great book you’ve just finished reading

You’re probably not going to read it again, but by passing the book on to someone that will read it, you’re sharing the joy.

20. Randomly buy a friend or family member some flowers

21. Ask someone about their day

22. Introduce yourself to a new neighbour

23. Organise a community event for your neighbourhood

24. Introduce two people who you think would get along

25. Leave some money in the car parking machine

26. Leave a tip in the restaurant. Show people in consumer-facing industries (like the food delivery person or your Uber driver) that you appreciate all they do by tipping 5 percent more than you usually do if you can afford it.

27. Leave a glowing review. Do you rely on reviews to decide if you’re going to buy something or use a service like a hairdresser or nail salon? If you’re happy with a product or service, leave a review to help others decide.

28. Stop to help someone who looks lost

29. Buy a gift card to hand to someone on your way out of the coffee shop

30. Donate your old mobile phone to a charity

31. Buy products from a small local business

32. Adopt a Grandparent. Go to a local care home and ask who doesn’t get many visitors or gifts.

33. Send a random thank you email to someone you admire

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Lets start a positive movement; use social media for good. Post about the simple ways you are being kind, and tag me @tinasimplyshine. Then I invite you to tag three friends so they continue this. Let’s see how long we can keep it going for and how many people it can reach.

About Tina Russell

Tina Russell is a Mindset and Wellbeing Blogger and Coach who helps busy women to calm the chaos in their mind and life, prioritise themselves and shine in all they choose to do. After years of not valuing herself and being a perfectionist, Tina suffered from anxiety and exhaustion and knew something had to change. She set about retraining her brain and getting her shine back, making self-care and self-development her passions. Now happier in her life, Tina uses her coaching and influencing skills from her corporate HR career, and years of experience in making positive changes to her life, to inspire and motivate other women to do the same.


  1. Such a lovely post. It’s the small things that make a huge difference. I’m one of those people that smiles at others passing in the street. A lot of people don’t do that, but you never know – you may just brighten up someone’s day.

    1. Absolutely. You never know what difference you could make to someone.

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